On Friday, 5/12/17, in Kansas City MO, Mario Antoine, sex scammer, pleaded guilty. Both his and the federal attorney agreed to a sentence of 10 years, as he pleaded guilty to wire fraud and avoided up to 60 years confinement on all charges.
Antoine induced women into sex by claiming to audition them as porn stars. Although he’d admitted to victimizing 10 or more Continue reading Convicted! Mario Antoine- Sex Scammer!
Recent news coverage casts a huge light on “Stealthing;” stripping off the condom during intercourse, without the partner’s consent.
From the Huffington Post to Fox News and beyond, articles are popping up across the media landscape, and all exemplify why broadcasting the actual meaning of “consent” is so vital! Continue reading #Stealthing Lacks Consent!
The femicide crisis in South America is staggering……..
According to the BBC- a woman dies from femicide every other day in Columbia, every day in Argentina, 5 per day in Mexico and 15 per day in Brazil.
The culture of femicide is so ingrained in the lifestyle that on Wednesday, the City Council in Buenos Aires, Argentina, passed an Continue reading Catcalls Banned in Argentina!
Federal Prosecutors described alleged sex scammer, Mario Ambrose Antoine as a “serial rapist” and put a current case of Rape by Fraud center stage in main stream media! The case was filed with 6 complainants but 25 additional woman have stepped forward since the Kansas City Star went public with the information on Monday. If you were harmed by this man, contact the Kansas City MO office of the FBI at 816-512-8200.
Here’s the latest article which Continue reading Sex Scammer Faces Fed Prison
Cited as “Draconian but necessary,” a Sexual Harm Prevention Order (SHPO) was recently issued against 44 year old UK electrician, Geoffrey Ball. Ball had been found guilty of sexual offenses toward women and is no longer allowed to have a relationship of any sort with a woman, without express permission by the police.
Such orders should be available to US authorities in order to prevent Continue reading UK’s Extreme Solution to Combat Sex Crimes
People who have empathy are capable of unconditional love. That’s the love of forgiveness. Unconditional love affects you at your very core and compels you regardless of how the person looks or behaves.
They can have a bad day, be seriously ill, put on some pounds or Continue reading Love Vs. Narcissistic Love- The “empathy” connection
An online resource produced a decisive info-graphic explaining exactly how our brain chemistry attracts and attaches us to our love interests. It describes everything from the Continue reading The Science Behind Love Is Revealed
A narcissist will not see their behavior through the reality of cause and effect. Instead, they will use a distorted prism to blur the lines. Continue reading Blurring the lines through the prism of Narcissism
Victims of sexual assault by fraud often think all is lost and they’ll never be able to trust again. Not only were they harmed by a scammer, but the emotional supports they counted on caused them further pain.
Tsunami’s are most often created by sudden movements on the ocean’s floor such as earthquakes or mudslides. They’re the backlash of displacement. This natural event mirrors the seismic wave Continue reading The Tsunami of Invalidation- Recovering Trust
On Sunday, November 15th, the Speaker of the Assembly in Arunachal Pradesh, India, Nabam Rebia, was charged with physical and mental assault, based on his “false promise to marry” by his live-in girlfriend of four years. A First Information Report, (FIR,) which enables the police to arrest without warrant, was drawn up based on her complaints. FIRs are Continue reading New Sexual Assault by Fraud Case in India
Gayle Newland, convicted of rape by deception in Canberra, Australia, was sentenced to 8 years in prison yesterday. The Judge, Roger Dutton, grossly overstepped the bounds of rational judgement to impose harsh retaliation, not justice. Newland is a lesbian. Dutton’s sentence is more severe than those he leveled on pedophiles. Continue reading What’s appropriate sentencing for rape by deception? Not the Gayle Newland case!
Tomorrow is an important day for CATFISH PROFILE SURVIVORS in NY!
The NY State Assembly Standing Committee on Consumer Affairs and Protection, along with the Assembly Standing Committee on Aging and the Subcommittee on Consumer Fraud Protection, are holding a public hearing on scams against seniors.
You don’t have to guess twice about what I’ll be addressing! Continue reading Are you a NY Senior who’s been Catfished?
I’m sure the issue Robert Hume raised in his comment elsewhere on this blog is one that troubles many people who hear about sexual assault by fraud, so I thought I’d deal with it in a post. Robert’s words offer considerable insight…..
And what is more I find your assertions offensive! Through your argument you are calling me, my brother, my mother, two of my best friends, and several of my colleges, rapists. How dare you!? I am outraged at such an accusation. This offends me deeply.
It’s my belief that Robert is stating that he thinks all these folks lie to defraud people of sex. If I’m misunderstanding, I apologize, and I’ll quickly correct what I’m saying.
Nobody likes being shamed!
I certainly don’t and I can’t imagine why anyone else would either, unless they have some kinky quirks! Shaming people is not my intent when I point out that defrauding a person of sex is a sexual assault. My interest is to protect victims, not shame offenders, even though the offender’s actions are, indeed, shameful.
A major factor in the commission of a crime is “Criminal Intent.” If society has yet to deem it a crime, you certainly couldn’t be perceived as a criminal for conducting yourself in a specific manner.
I think Robert’s comment shows that he does, in fact, now recognize his past behavior was shameful, and he’s tranferring the blame for the shame he feels on me, for bringing it to his attention. I certainly did not make him do the things he did in the past that he may regret in retrospect.
Tryon Edwards, a theologian who died before the 1900s once said:
Right actions for the future are the best apology for bad actions in the past.
Laws change
Some laws get tossed aside, and new ones get enacted. We don’t go backwards in time to throw people in jail because they committed an offense that wasn’t considered a crime at the time of their actions. Once a crime is established, however, the concept of “ignorance is no excuse,” applies because society has recognized the behavior as indecent. And whether you knew it was indecent or not, society had determined it was indecent, and holds all its members to specific standards.
Penal code simply codifies what behaviors will be penalized and what won’t. Just because something does not appear in criminal code does not make it right. Behaviors that appear in criminal code tomorrow are the same behaviors that may not appear in criminal code today. Again, just because they’re not currently punished, does not make them right or decent.
Tomorrow’s a new day
I believe that society will wake up and understand the gross harm that the behavior of defrauding someone for sex causes them. And I’m willing to go on record about my views in order to create a change and prevent further harm. Society does not evolve without the efforts of those who bring about that change.
I hope that by this post, and other discussions that go on throughout society, Robert becomes more aware of the significant harm created by lying to someone to induce sex, and that he’ll refrain from doing so in the future. I also hope he’ll discuss this issue with the folks around him because it appears they could use some enlightenment!
BTW- This is my 100th post on this blog. I thank everyone who’s contributed thus far to getting the message across about the harm in defrauding people for sex.
Every day for the past few months, I’ve noticed a significant increase in articles on Oxytocin, the neuropeptide that’s at the very heart, (yes, pun intended,) of human bonding. From stories about creating trust with our pet pooches, to black-market trafficking, Continue reading Oxytocin-The media is catching on!
Bill Cosby is far from the only person in the news who seemed to deceive women into sex. Gokula Nanda, age 62, was charged with Sexual Battery, Sexual Battery by Fraud and Sexual Penetration by Fraud in Torrance CA. Nanda is alleged to have used sex acts as a means of exploitation while claiming to be a Hindu Monk. Continue reading Sexual Predators Beware- Sexual Battery By Fraud is Charged in CA!
What’s the difference?
A recent Valeriya Safronova article in the NY Times focused on the act of sudden, unexpected withdrawal and non-communication in romantic relationships. It shines a light on the cruel act that many victims in toxic relationships refer to as being discarded.
Safronova attempts to define the behavior by citing Charlize Theron’s decision to “ghost,” refrain from communication with, Continue reading Ghosting, Discard, and No Contact
California still uses the word “rape” in its penal code.
It has laws that outlaw some, but not all types of rape by fraud! It’s a start! The laws passed in 2013. The case that inspired the change was People v Morales.
According to the case records, Julio Morales snuck into bed with a sleeping victim while her bedroom was dark. Morales’s account indicates that he changed her Continue reading California- The Land of In-Between
Here’s a clever video that simplifies sexual “consent”. It gets the point across that if you ask someone if they want tea, you shouldn’t force them to take it, and includes a variety of very plausible scenarios.
Unfortunately, it also contains some gratuitous strong language, but hey, after all, it’s about sex. Presumably, we’re all adults.
The one thing I’d add… Continue reading What’s Tea Have to Do With Sexual Assault?
Rachel Sanoff deserves a medal for her article on Bustle! Must reading for everyone who ever wondered why they were stuck Continue reading A Great Read on Oxytocin- Love Addiction
“Ya think?” is how many folks react when they hear the lame excuse for why people lie to have sex with them. Here’s what that comment really means…..
“I knew if I pretended to be something I wasn’t, you’d have sex with me,” and conversely, “I knew if I told you the truth Continue reading “I Thought I’d Lose You!”