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#TimesUp and The Importance of #FGKIA!

Consent = Freely Given, Knowledgeable and Informed Agreement! #FGKIA

Will #TimesUp, the new sexual harassment awareness effort by prominent women of stature, ignite the fire that eradicates sexual assault? If they do the following, they will!!

Standardize CONSENT PROVISIONS in penal codes

across the US and beyond!

#MeToo exposed the problem of sexual assault and harassment. Now we need to go the next step and secure the solution!

Why is correctly defining and standardizing “consent” so important? Continue reading #TimesUp and The Importance of #FGKIA!

Salon’s Concern on Right-Wing #MeToo Backlash

Andrew Leonie, former TX Asst. Deputy Attorney General, stepped down after mocking #MeToo

Today, Amanda Marcotte at Salon ran a valuable piece on the conservative attempt to trash the #MeToo movement. I agree; it’s coming!

Instead of being appalled at the vast quantity of complaints, and recognizing how wide-spread sexual assault and sexual harassment actually are, they are misusing “quantity” to obfuscate and diminish reality. In their convoluted interpretation, the larger and more exposed the problem gets, the less it can be believed. Nothing is further from the truth. Their rationale simply reveals how corrupted their values truly are.

I wrote a response to the Salon article. Please give it a “like” in the comment section for Salon.

There are people who, as a result of their DNA and their developmental issues, lack the brain chemistry that produces appropriate caring for their fellow man and makes them me-centric. They are unable to grasp why they have no right to impose their sexual desires on another. They look at others as objects of their desires, not human beings deserving of respect. There are a lot of them. And they carry out their assaults, victim after victim, which is why so many people have been harmed.

This objectifying of victims, mostly women, will not stop by exposure alone. There needs to be teeth in the laws that guide behavior. Without it, evil people will simply continue to harm others. There must be penal code that prevents them from doing so. We do not have it.

Although the ItsOnUs Pledge states clearly “Non-consensual sex is a sexual assault,” this language has NOT been enacted into the penal code of any state. And if it were, it would still require correctly defining the meaning of consent- freely given, knowledgeable and informed agreement, #FGKIA, into law. Without doing so, sexual assault will continue. Adopting these two important statements into law will stop rape mentality!

Call your legislator! Turn them into law, today!

#FGKIA

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“Adopt this language in penal code throughout the US and beyond…. “‘Consent’ is Freely Given, Knowledgeable and Informed Agreement! All Non-Consensual Sex is a Sexual Assault!” ”
— Joyce Short

Help Spread the Word: #CombatRomanceScams!

Are you wondering why rape by fraud is a crime?

This video can answer your basic questions and help get Combating Romance Scams launched!

Please help support this effort! Watch the video and pre-register for your copy today!

By doing so, you’ll help put an end to cases like that of William Allen Jordan and Mario Antoine who shamelessly prey on victims for non-consensual sex. This crime harms millions of innocent lives each day. Together, we can make it stop!

What do “Mistresses” and Joe Paterno have in common?

Mistresses

I confess….. I was addicted to “Mad Men.” Recorded every episode.

Since I can’t get lost in the exploits of Donald Draper any longer, I’ve turned to “Mistresses” and “The Bachelor” for my “bad-relationship” fixes. Analyzing whether the creators stick to the realistic affects of oxytocin is a favorite pastime of mine. And Continue reading What do “Mistresses” and Joe Paterno have in common?

Pistorius Murdered his Betrayal Bonded Lover!

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South Africa’s highest court finally provided justice for betrayal bonded Reeva Steenkamp, the beautiful model who Paralymipc star, Oscar Pistorius, love-bombed and tormented. On December 3, in Bloemfontein, South Africa, Justice Eric Leach overturned the prior decision of Justice Masipa to disqualify  the charge of murder in favor of a lesser charge, equivalent to manslaughter. Continue reading Pistorius Murdered his Betrayal Bonded Lover!

The Tsunami of Invalidation- Recovering Trust

Victims of sexual assault by fraud often think all is lost and they’ll never be able to trust again. Not only were they harmed by a scammer, but the emotional supports they counted on caused them further pain.

Tsunami’s are most often created by sudden movements on the ocean’s floor such as earthquakes or mudslides. They’re the backlash of displacement. This natural event mirrors the seismic wave Continue reading The Tsunami of Invalidation- Recovering Trust

What do Monopoly and Oscar Pistorius have in common? 

From Milton Bradley's popular game, Monopoly
From Milton Bradley’s popular game, Monopoly

Drilling four bullet holes into his girlfriend, Reeva Steenkamp, wasn’t sufficient to convict Oscar Pistorius, famous South African, double amputee and Olympic runner, for murder.  His jail term on a manslaughter conviction, 5 years, meant spending only 12 months behind bars. He’ll serve the balance of his sentence under house arrest. Pistorius gets his Get Out of Jail (almost) Free card on October 20th.

Continue reading What do Monopoly and Oscar Pistorius have in common? 

Guilty of sexual assault by fraud in Australia!

Guilty of #rapebyfraud
Billy Tamawiwy

Canberra, Australia, Sept 25th- Found guilty of Sexual Intercourse Without Consent! The Canberra Times

Update:

ACT News reports: Tamawiwy sentenced to close to 5 years for rape by fraud!

Justice Richard Refshauge on Wednesday, (11/11/2015,) sentenced Tamawiwy to four years and 10 months’ jail, with a non-parole period of two years and two months.

Tamawiwy is likely to be deported to Indonesia once he’s released.

Read more: http://www.canberratimes.com.au/act-news/man-who-used-fake-female-facebook-profile-in-rape-sentenced-to-almost-five-years-20151111-gkw8wg.html#ixzz3rJqgzBDW
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Billy Tamawiwy was declared guilty today on charges that he used deceit to obtain consent to sex from a teen aged boy. His elaborate hoax included alcohol and pretending he was a woman. Seems he told the victim that having sex with him was a requirement to having Continue reading Guilty of sexual assault by fraud in Australia!

Are You For Real?

#RapebyFraud iand #RomeoFraud s more than a #OneNightStand

I received this comment from a reader this morning. I’m posting it for reasons that may not be exactly what you think as you follow it. Here’s what “Tracey” had to say…….

I’ve been a victim now for many years and I have decided to break my silence. My body has been violated, and my sense of trust has been forever lost. It all started on a Friday night after work. I was at Continue reading Are You For Real?

Overt vs. Covert Rape- What’s the difference?

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I wish I had a nickel for every time someone told me “Rape by Fraud isn’t Real Rape!”

Back in 1982, Susan Estrich,

  • Fox News Legal Commentator,
  • University of Southern California Law Professor,
  • First female to become President of Harvard Law Review,
  • Campaign Manager for Dukakis/Bentzen’s Presidential bid,

launched her account of rape by fraud. Guess what the name of her book is…… Real Rape.

Susan Estrich is my hero! Without her brave attempt at setting Continue reading Overt vs. Covert Rape- What’s the difference?

Free.. from rape…. at last?

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My wish for every rape by fraud victim, as we celebrate the independence that set our country free, is freedom from the pervasive bondage of defilement that binds hearts and impedes souls. Continue reading Free.. from rape…. at last?

California- The Land of In-Between

California

California still uses the word “rape” in its penal code.

It has laws that outlaw some, but not all types of rape by fraud! It’s a start! The laws passed in 2013. The case that inspired the change was People v Morales.

According to the case records, Julio Morales snuck into bed with a sleeping victim while her bedroom was dark. Morales’s account indicates that he changed her Continue reading California- The Land of In-Between

Oxytocin Wins Scientific Grants for UF!

Neuropeptide

The neuropeptide, oxytocin, has been linked to many beneficial characteristics and behaviors in both humans and other mammals. Considered the “Love Molecule” by Dr. Paul Zak in his groundbreaking book, The Moral Molecule, How Trust Works, it has become a hot topic, drawing funds for in-depth analysis by scientific researchers.

Melissa Brown reported the following for The Independent Florida Alligator:

Continue reading Oxytocin Wins Scientific Grants for UF!

All Aboard for the Great Sociopathic Abuse and Recovery Blog Tour!

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Experienced bloggers on the subject of Sociopathic Abuse and Recovery have joined hands for today to provide their knowledge and support!  You’ll find them all, and their links, listed below.

All aboard! The train is about to leave the station! Continue reading All Aboard for the Great Sociopathic Abuse and Recovery Blog Tour!

How to introduce “Truth In Romance Day” to your mate

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Everyone is entitled to truth in romance, but some folks simply don’t comply. They think their wants are more relevant than yours, and don’t grasp how much you care about protecting your personal autonomy.

Truth in Romance Day is designed to give you the support you need in order to satisfy your concerns and protect yourself. Continue reading How to introduce “Truth In Romance Day” to your mate

Celebrating Truth in Romance Day! June 15th

Announcing the first annual, international

 Truth in Romance Day

We have Valentine’s Day for celebrating love. We have days to acknowledge Moms, Dads and Grandparents, We even have days to recognize ground hogs. And did you know September 24th is National Punctuation Day…. No kidding!!

I’ve long struggled with a way to unite folks behind the concept of being truthful in romantic relationships. People who’ve fallen prey to hoaxes know all too well Continue reading Celebrating Truth in Romance Day! June 15th

The Voice of Supporters- Stop Sex By Fraud!

supporters

Nay-Sayers are not the only voices!

We’ve heard all the nay-saying silliness that folks who oppose “Sexual Assault by Fraud” laws come up with. And we’ve seen the ridiculous scenarios that the media creates in order to sensationalize, by stoking the fire of opposition….. Continue reading The Voice of Supporters- Stop Sex By Fraud!

Oxytocin at its finest!

Barbara Tage

The neuropeptide, oxytocin, along with others, provides connection “chemistry.”

Some people are more easily seduced because they’re more compelled by bonding chemistry than others. In the case of Barbara Tatge, a Boston Marathon runner from TN, she seemed immediately smitten by a man she randomly kissed, Continue reading Oxytocin at its finest!

I would swim across the ocean to be with you!

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How many love-bombed victims of toxic romance have heard this type of endearing commitment from a sociopathic lover?

“You’re so beautiful,” and “I’ll love you forever,” are more of the same. When it comes out of the mouth of a man pledging undying love while his wife of sixteen years waits for him in a far away place, Continue reading I would swim across the ocean to be with you!