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Today’s NY Times- Is Sex by Deception a Form of Rape?

Today’s NY Times – Is Sex by Deception a Form of Rape?

Kudos to Abby Ellin for getting this right!! As an author about a very contentious subject, I’m often concerned about my words getting twisted, but Ms. Ellin was thorough about the important points and spot-on in the message she’s conveyed.

The #FGKIA definition for consent, “Freely Given, Knowledgeable and Informed Agreement,” is the REAL definition for consent.  We need to drive #FGKIA into the consciousness of society! Adopting this language into law will not only open society’s eyes to defrauding victims of sex, but will help conquer all forms of sexual assault! We can no longer tolerate our legislators picking and choosing specific types of sexual assaults to prosecute, when ALL FORMS OF SEXUAL ASSAULT IS – WAS – AND FOREVER WILL BE A CRIME!

Failure to recognize this definition not only impacts sex by deception victims, but prevents society from understanding what actually constitutes rape.

For the NY Times to be dealing with the issue of sexual assault by deception is a huge step forward to enlighten society. Please read this article and write your opinion in the comment section. Use your voice to make the world a safer place!

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Kentucky: The Grass Is Not All That’s Blue!

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I received the following message from a very intelligent Blue Grass State resident (with a PhD.) We’ll call her Pamela.  She discovered she was hitched to a narcissist after a 40 year marriage that produced four children.

People often ask me how long a narcissist can keep up their charade. Continue reading Kentucky: The Grass Is Not All That’s Blue!

Convicted! Mario Antoine- Sex Scammer!

Mario Antoine- locked up for 10 years!

On Friday, 5/12/17, in Kansas City MO, Mario  Antoine, sex scammer, pleaded guilty. Both his and the federal attorney agreed to a sentence of 10 years, as he pleaded guilty to wire fraud and avoided up to 60 years confinement on all charges.

Antoine induced women into sex by claiming to audition them as porn stars. Although he’d admitted to victimizing 10 or more Continue reading Convicted! Mario Antoine- Sex Scammer!

How to get away with rape in Missouri! The Mario Antoine case

#MarioAntoine Is he a #SerialRapist

In Kansas City MO, thirty-three year old Mario Antoine is facing 21 federal charges, from cyber-stalking to extortion, for scamming women into sex on the premise that he was a porn videographer and they were auditioning for a part. The FBI handled the investigation, and the Federal Prosecutor was quoted by the Kansas City Star as saying he’s a “serial rapist.” But rape is a state, not a federal crime. Continue reading How to get away with rape in Missouri! The Mario Antoine case

Sex Scammer Faces Fed Prison

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Federal Prosecutors described alleged sex scammer, Mario Ambrose Antoine as a “serial rapist” and put a current case of Rape by Fraud center stage in main stream media! The case was filed with 6 complainants but 25 additional woman have stepped forward since the Kansas City Star went public with the information on Monday. If you were harmed by this man, contact the Kansas City MO office of the FBI at 816-512-8200.

Here’s the latest article which  Continue reading Sex Scammer Faces Fed Prison

Contamination – What an apt description for sexual assault!

Brock Turner’s victim hit on an exceptionally descriptive term to explain how rape made her feel. Even though she was unconscious during the entire episode, she expressed, in her stirring statement, that she felt “contaminated.” Continue reading Contamination – What an apt description for sexual assault!

Joyce Interviewed on Canadian Broadcast Corp!

#The180 host #JimBrown
Jim Brown, Host of CBC’s The 180

Jim Brown, an award winning producer and the highly acclaimed host of The 180 – CBC’s national radio show to spark conversation on what’s going on in Canada – jumped right in with the important questions ….

“People often tell little white lies to impress a possible partner, At what point do those lies add up to fraud? “

The entire broadcast aired at 11 am (EST) on Sunday morning, 9/11. You can hear it all, and respond with your comments on the PodCast.

Here’s the link! 

 

Read VICE Today! Is Lying to Get Laid a Form of Sexual Assault?

VICE

Read Neil McArthur’s insightful article on Sexual Assault by Fraud! 

Be sure to enter the conversation!

Here’s the link: http://www.vice.com/en_ca/read/is-lying-to-get-laid-a-form-of-sexual-assault

UK’s Extreme Solution to Combat Sex Crimes

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Cited as “Draconian but necessary,” a Sexual Harm Prevention Order (SHPO) was recently issued against 44 year old UK electrician, Geoffrey Ball. Ball had been found guilty of sexual offenses toward women and is no longer allowed to have a relationship of any sort with a woman, without express permission by the police.

Such orders should be available to US authorities in order to prevent Continue reading UK’s Extreme Solution to Combat Sex Crimes

Terrible injustice in MA! Clearly, Sexual Assault by Fraud!

 

Did #MarianRyan let a #SexOffender off the hook?
Marian T. Ryan, District Attorney of Middlesex County, Massachusetts

In MA, Middlesex County DA Marian Ryan needed to make an unfortunate decision last week. She determined it best not to arrest Dr. Roger Ian Hardy for inappropriately rubbing a patient’s genitals under the guise of a “medical examination.” Patients have complained about this doctor for several years with no validation from the justice system.! Continue reading Terrible injustice in MA! Clearly, Sexual Assault by Fraud!

Love Vs. Narcissistic Love- The “empathy” connection

The #Empathy Connection!People who have empathy are capable of unconditional love. That’s the love of forgiveness. Unconditional love affects you at your very core and compels you regardless of how the person looks or behaves.

They can have a bad day, be seriously ill, put on some pounds or Continue reading Love Vs. Narcissistic Love- The “empathy” connection

Are FL Police Under-Serving a Mentally Challenged Rape Victim?

Did #DanielMichaelFarris commit #SexScam?
Daniel Michael Farris, Pinellas County Sheriff’s Office

Florida uses the term “sexual battery” instead of “rape.” And its statutes specifically define that sexual battery takes place when the victim has a mental defect or disease which renders them temporarily or permanently incapable of appraising the nature of his or her conduct.
Continue reading Are FL Police Under-Serving a Mentally Challenged Rape Victim?

Only an Ass Thinks “Assent” and “Consent” Are the Same in Sex

#AssentVsConsent

And the folks we rely on to provide language to our laws seem to be full-fledged asses!

The American Law Institute (ALI) created Model Penal Code (MPC) back in 1962. It’s goal was to standardize penal code throughout the US. Many states have adopted parts of its language including their definition of “consent”  You can see whether their definition was applied when you read your state’s statutes. Each state “picks” and “chooses” what it wants rather than adopting MPC in full.   Continue reading Only an Ass Thinks “Assent” and “Consent” Are the Same in Sex

Dust-Off! Steps 6 & 7- How to Heal From a Romance Scam

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Tomorrow is Truth in Romance Day! And this is our final  installment of the Dust-Off Plan for Recovery from a Romance Scam. This last crucial step should have you well on your way to reclaiming your  self-esteem and dignity. We’ll end with the letters “F & F.”

Continue reading Dust-Off! Steps 6 & 7- How to Heal From a Romance Scam

Dust-Off! Step 5- How to Heal From a Romance Scam!

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From now ’til June 15th, Truth in Romance Day, read each crucial step to help romance scam victims reclaim their self-esteem and dignity. Today, we’ll cover the letter “O”. Continue reading Dust-Off! Step 5- How to Heal From a Romance Scam!

Dust-Off! Step 3- How do you heal from a romance scam?

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From now ’til June 15th, Truth in Romance Day, I’ll identify each crucial step to help romance scam victims reclaim their self-esteem and dignity. Today, we’ll cover the letter “S”.

The entire DUST-OFF Plan For Recovery from sexual assault by fraud is revealed in  Carnal Abuse by Deceit, How a Predator’s Lies Became Rape. 

Happy healing and happy Truth in Romance Day to all! #TruthInRomance Day is even more important than #ValentinesDay!

Here’s Step 3……

Seek Counseling or Therapy

You need someone whose advice you can trust! You were drawn to a predator. Recognizing that you should leave the relationship may be difficult for you. Through therapy you may find the strength and path to break off the relationship. You also may need guidance to understand how you became involved with a predator in the first place. Without that knowledge you are likely to make the same mistake again.

If you have parted with the predator already, you may need help to cope with bewildering, overwhelming pain. A therapist who deals with Complex PTSD can help you. A mental health clinic that provides therapy at a reduced rate might fill your need if you can’t afford a private practitioner.

The entire Dust-Off! plan for recovery is included in Carnal Abuse by Deceit. Click the title to purchase your copy. 

Dust-Off! Step 2- How do you heal from a romance scam?

HEALING

From now ’til June 15th, Truth in Romance Day, I’ll identify each crucial step to help romance scam victims reclaim their self-esteem and dignity. Today, we’ll deal with the letter “U”.

The entire DUST-OFF Plan For Recovery from sexual assault by fraud is revealed in  Carnal Abuse by Deceit, How a Predator’s Lies Became Rape. 

#TruthInRomance Day is even more important than #ValentinesDay!Happy healing and happy Truth in Romance Day to all!

 

 

Undue pressure is counterproductive to healing! 

Understand that healing Is NOT a return to your former self! Every experience we encounter enables us to grow.

Often people who have been damaged believe the end goal is to wash away all remembrance of pain and return to the person they once were, but there is no going back. The expectation of recovering your former self can serve to depress you because it is an unobtainable goal and will be a constant disappointment. Once you can take strength from having lived through your ordeal, you’re on your way toward recovery.

Time and distance will ease your pain. And if you can grieve the loss of your innocence, the loss of the person you were, you can put it behind you. You are wiser now. Employ that wisdom to keep yourself safe from predators in the future.

You will often hear the concept of “forgiveness” used as a means to overcome the effects of wrongdoing. Forgiveness does not mean having to forget what happened or excuse it. Rather, it means accepting that it happened to you. A morally disordered person will not care in the least whether you forgive them or not, so don’t forgive them for their sake, forgive them for yours.

We often keep anger close to our hearts when we have suffered gross injustice. Doing so erodes our own sense of well-being by focusing us on pain and creating hyper-vigilance. We need to refocus ourselves on the good things in our lives in order to make room for joy to find its way back in. It is difficult to put anger aside. It takes considerable practice, but it gets easier in time as life takes on new meanings and the episode you survived fades into your past.

The entire Dust-Off! plan for recovery is included in Carnal Abuse by Deceit. Click the title to purchase your copy. 

DUST-OFF! Tips for healing from romance scams

Truth in Romance Day is coming on June 15th!

#TruthInRomance Day is even more important than #ValentinesDay!

For those who were victimized by romance scams, the steps to recovery are coming, beginning June 9th. They are straight out of my book, Carnal Abuse by Deceit. Starting on June 9th, I’ll reveal each step, one by one, and by Truth in Romance Day on June 15th, you’ll know them all and be on your way to restoring your self-esteem!

Continue reading DUST-OFF! Tips for healing from romance scams

Is rape by fraud an insult to “real” rape victims?

It was Halloween, 1987.

My son was six years old and attending a private school on the Upper Westside in NYC. His teacher had arranged a little party for the class at lunchtime, and I’d offered to bring cupcakes. They were a mixture of chocolate and vanilla with bright orange butter frosting. I recall every detail because of what happened to me on the way there. Continue reading Is rape by fraud an insult to “real” rape victims?

Micro Expression- Is it the key to scamming us?

Do #Psychopaths learn how to control us and conduct #rapeByFraud by watching our facial cues?

According to Wickipedia, mental health professionals refer to the emotional impacts of harmful and helpful behaviors as valence. And they credit valence with our judgement and choices. Fear is an example of an emotion with negative valence, while joy exemplifies positive valence. Continue reading Micro Expression- Is it the key to scamming us?