The FBI tells us that Romance Scams are the most common form of fraud in today’s society. And I don’t use the word “fraud” loosely. As most of you who’ve read my material know, lies only constitute a crime when the victim suffers harm. ‘Til then, lies are just lies.
When the offender crosses that line in the sand that constitutes injury to the other party, they are actually committing a crime. Their Continue reading The 3 Primary Motives Behind Romance Scams, and why it’s so hard to get justice
CONSENT could be the most misunderstood word in the English language!
Millions of people are harmed by rape every year. And some offenders do not comprehend why or how their behavior constitutes RAPE.
Let’s get it right!
Continue reading New Spelling for “CONSENT” will stand RAPE MENTALITY on it’s ear!
Get out your rock ‘n roll shoes! CMT’s February release of Sun Records, the story of the creation of rock n’ roll, promises to be a big hit for country music fans! For me, however, it’s the story of heinous, callous and personally harmful deceit; a treachery that stole food right out of the mouths of both my child and me, and caused indescribable pain. Continue reading #SunRecords and the Shameful Back-Story of Deceit
Little noticed by much of society, a landmark study on the genetic link to character disorder was released on June 20th by researchers Continue reading UGA links OXT gene to social disorders
Some of the comments he received from Trump’s supporters showed absolute ignorance over how global debt actually works. Trump’s policy would be disastrous for the world’s economy. I wrote an explanation and got the following message from a reader: 
Yup… you heard me right!
In order to pull yourself out from a sociopath’s control, and stop feeling the pangs of love that keep drawing you back…… put the emotional empathy that sets you apart from them to work on your behalf! Emotional empathy enables you to relate to the emotions of others. Take a good look at your relationship through their eyes, and you’ll never go back!
Continue reading Need to escape a sociopath’s grip? See yourself through their eyes!
A narcissist will not see their behavior through the reality of cause and effect. Instead, they will use a distorted prism to blur the lines. Continue reading Blurring the lines through the prism of Narcissism
My son contacted me on Thanksgiving
After an absence of eight years, he either decided to taunt me or absurdly thought that leaving me a voicemail message of “I love you” from a blocked phone, would be appreciated. As if that wasn’t painful enough…. Continue reading Holiday Struggles- Lament and Loss
Every day for the past few months, I’ve noticed a significant increase in articles on Oxytocin, the neuropeptide that’s at the very heart, (yes, pun intended,) of human bonding. From stories about creating trust with our pet pooches, to black-market trafficking, Continue reading Oxytocin-The media is catching on!
The Hows and Whys of Maternal Alienation
Mothers pour their love into their children. From the moment our eyes meet theirs, we’re swept into the desire to nurture, protect, and provide for the development of our tiny charge. The concept that this minute human being could ever grow up to hate us is so far off the radar screen that it’s just plain unimaginable.
So what interferes with the natural bond that one puts their total faith in? Unless a child is physically tormented on a regular basis, Continue reading Alienation and emotionally disturbed children
Why do some people become psychopaths while other don’t? Here’s my take on how it all fits together…. Continue reading The Color Wheel of Conscience
A commentor I’ll call Rochelle left this heartfelt post. It’s a clear indication of the harm in rape by fraud that comes directly from the mouth of a woman who’d previously been date raped, a form of the crime we readily recognize in today’s penal codes throughout the world.
I’m frequently told that to consider tricking a person into sex as a form of “sexual assault” is an insult toward victims of violent or date rape. Continue reading Comparing rape by fraud with date rape- Rochelle’s CAD Tale
He’s just a scammer, not a sociopath! You know…. a catfish con artist. Other than that, he’s a nice guy? Right?
Yup- that’s what the police officer told one recent victim when she described her harrowing run-in with the heartless con artist who defrauded her of sex, love and assets. I’ll call her Kaitlin.
Kaitlin met her Romeo, Kenneth, at work. He was the technologist Continue reading Catfish, Sociopath or Scammer? Kaitlin’s CAD TALE
Here’s a clever video that simplifies sexual “consent”. It gets the point across that if you ask someone if they want tea, you shouldn’t force them to take it, and includes a variety of very plausible scenarios.
Unfortunately, it also contains some gratuitous strong language, but hey, after all, it’s about sex. Presumably, we’re all adults.
The one thing I’d add… Continue reading What’s Tea Have to Do With Sexual Assault?
Rachel Sanoff deserves a medal for her article on Bustle! Must reading for everyone who ever wondered why they were stuck Continue reading A Great Read on Oxytocin- Love Addiction
Nay-Sayers are not the only voices!
We’ve heard all the nay-saying silliness that folks who oppose “Sexual Assault by Fraud” laws come up with. And we’ve seen the ridiculous scenarios that the media creates in order to sensationalize, by stoking the fire of opposition….. Continue reading The Voice of Supporters- Stop Sex By Fraud!
The neuropeptide, oxytocin, along with others, provides connection “chemistry.”
Some people are more easily seduced because they’re more compelled by bonding chemistry than others. In the case of Barbara Tatge, a Boston Marathon runner from TN, she seemed immediately smitten by a man she randomly kissed, Continue reading Oxytocin at its finest!
“Ya think?” is how many folks react when they hear the lame excuse for why people lie to have sex with them. Here’s what that comment really means…..
“I knew if I pretended to be something I wasn’t, you’d have sex with me,” and conversely, “I knew if I told you the truth Continue reading “I Thought I’d Lose You!”
Lack of emotional empathy = shallow, superficial emotions
Sociopaths weave beautifully seductive tales.
Problem is, they don’t mean it the way you absorb it. When they embrace you and speak endearingly of “forever,” they’re only thinking of the immediate gratification they’ll receive today. They want the adoration and sexual surrender you reserve for those you deeply love, and they will get it no matter what it costs you in emotional upheaval. Continue reading CAD Tale- Suki’s Story
SexFraud survivors have a tough time securing validation.
Often, the emotional support needed for recovery is difficult to come by. Family and friends may not grasp the horrific sense of defilement they feel. Continue reading Coping Tools for SexFraud Survivors
