All types of rape create self blame and shame for victims. This statement from the Rape Treatment Center at the Santa Monica UCLA Medical Center– sums up the feelings that rape victims express:
Continue reading Self Blame and Shame- the hallmarks of rape
A commentor I’ll call Rochelle left this heartfelt post. It’s a clear indication of the harm in rape by fraud that comes directly from the mouth of a woman who’d previously been date raped, a form of the crime we readily recognize in today’s penal codes throughout the world.
I’m frequently told that to consider tricking a person into sex as a form of “sexual assault” is an insult toward victims of violent or date rape. Continue reading Comparing rape by fraud with date rape- Rochelle’s CAD Tale
He’s just a scammer, not a sociopath! You know…. a catfish con artist. Other than that, he’s a nice guy? Right?
Yup- that’s what the police officer told one recent victim when she described her harrowing run-in with the heartless con artist who defrauded her of sex, love and assets. I’ll call her Kaitlin.
Kaitlin met her Romeo, Kenneth, at work. He was the technologist Continue reading Catfish, Sociopath or Scammer? Kaitlin’s CAD TALE
My wish for every rape by fraud victim, as we celebrate the independence that set our country free, is freedom from the pervasive bondage of defilement that binds hearts and impedes souls. Continue reading Free.. from rape…. at last?
Today, the NY Times featured a new novel about something not so new, and not so novel…… sexual assault by fraud.
Purchase it today along with the true life tale of sexual assault by fraud:
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What’s the difference?
A recent Valeriya Safronova article in the NY Times focused on the act of sudden, unexpected withdrawal and non-communication in romantic relationships. It shines a light on the cruel act that many victims in toxic relationships refer to as being discarded.
Safronova attempts to define the behavior by citing Charlize Theron’s decision to “ghost,” refrain from communication with, Continue reading Ghosting, Discard, and No Contact
California still uses the word “rape” in its penal code.
It has laws that outlaw some, but not all types of rape by fraud! It’s a start! The laws passed in 2013. The case that inspired the change was People v Morales.
According to the case records, Julio Morales snuck into bed with a sleeping victim while her bedroom was dark. Morales’s account indicates that he changed her Continue reading California- The Land of In-Between
Here’s a clever video that simplifies sexual “consent”. It gets the point across that if you ask someone if they want tea, you shouldn’t force them to take it, and includes a variety of very plausible scenarios.
Unfortunately, it also contains some gratuitous strong language, but hey, after all, it’s about sex. Presumably, we’re all adults.
The one thing I’d add… Continue reading What’s Tea Have to Do With Sexual Assault?
Rachel Sanoff deserves a medal for her article on Bustle! Must reading for everyone who ever wondered why they were stuck Continue reading A Great Read on Oxytocin- Love Addiction
The neuropeptide, oxytocin, has been linked to many beneficial characteristics and behaviors in both humans and other mammals. Considered the “Love Molecule” by Dr. Paul Zak in his groundbreaking book, The Moral Molecule, How Trust Works, it has become a hot topic, drawing funds for in-depth analysis by scientific researchers.
Melissa Brown reported the following for The Independent Florida Alligator:
Nay-Sayers are not the only voices!
We’ve heard all the nay-saying silliness that folks who oppose “Sexual Assault by Fraud” laws come up with. And we’ve seen the ridiculous scenarios that the media creates in order to sensationalize, by stoking the fire of opposition….. Continue reading The Voice of Supporters- Stop Sex By Fraud!
The neuropeptide, oxytocin, along with others, provides connection “chemistry.”
Some people are more easily seduced because they’re more compelled by bonding chemistry than others. In the case of Barbara Tatge, a Boston Marathon runner from TN, she seemed immediately smitten by a man she randomly kissed, Continue reading Oxytocin at its finest!
How many love-bombed victims of toxic romance have heard this type of endearing commitment from a sociopathic lover?
“You’re so beautiful,” and “I’ll love you forever,” are more of the same. When it comes out of the mouth of a man pledging undying love while his wife of sixteen years waits for him in a far away place, Continue reading I would swim across the ocean to be with you!
“Ya think?” is how many folks react when they hear the lame excuse for why people lie to have sex with them. Here’s what that comment really means…..
“I knew if I pretended to be something I wasn’t, you’d have sex with me,” and conversely, “I knew if I told you the truth Continue reading “I Thought I’d Lose You!”
There are loads of good people in the world who wouldn’t hurt a flea. And there are folks who are obvious villains. But scam artists are pretty difficult to spot in order to tell the difference between the two.
They look and sound like caring human beings, but they’re not. Someone who lies to you, in order to seduce you, has little or no emotional empathy. Continue reading The Good, the Bad, and the Scammers
Lack of emotional empathy = shallow, superficial emotions
Sociopaths weave beautifully seductive tales.
Problem is, they don’t mean it the way you absorb it. When they embrace you and speak endearingly of “forever,” they’re only thinking of the immediate gratification they’ll receive today. They want the adoration and sexual surrender you reserve for those you deeply love, and they will get it no matter what it costs you in emotional upheaval. Continue reading CAD Tale- Suki’s Story
Leonardo DiCaprio’s portrayal of a con artist can’t compare to this real life accused Lothario who faces justice for the first time today! Continue reading A True Life “Catch Me If You Can!”
SexFraud survivors have a tough time securing validation.
Often, the emotional support needed for recovery is difficult to come by. Family and friends may not grasp the horrific sense of defilement they feel. Continue reading Coping Tools for SexFraud Survivors
Every person’s brain chemistry is different.
It’s one of the many reasons why we’re as unalike as snowflakes in the wide expanse of humanity. Our DNA, brain chemistry, and the impacts of early childhood development, Continue reading Not Just Warm Flesh and Body Fluids
Off to the slammer!
Joe Guidice, star of reality TV’s The Housewives of New Jersey, was sentenced yesterday, April 2, 2015, for Driver’s License Fraud in Patterson, New Jersey. Seems he used “false personation”, documents of his brother’s, regarding his birth and marriage records, to secure a driver’s license.
He and his wife are both already in hot water over concealing income over bankruptcy proceedings. The penalty handed down for his License Fraud was 18 months in the State Pen, a suspended license, and a $10,000 fine, according to 7online.
So, obviously, the state of New Jersey takes a dim view of being lied to about people’s birth and marriage… yet Assembly Bill (#3908, Sexual Assault by Fraud,) to stop predators from defrauding victims of sex by those very same lies, has yet to emerge from the Legislative Judiciary Committee and hit the Assembly floor where it can get a fair hearing.
Please sign the Change.org petition to support passage of the law and let the Committee Chair, John McKeon, know how you feel!
