Catfish profile victims often experience revenge porn. Intimate pictures are tools predators use to inhibit their prey from stepping forward when the jig is up! Twenty six states in the US, Continue reading Revenge Porn Takes Center Stage! You can help!
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The Science Behind Love Is Revealed
An online resource produced a decisive info-graphic explaining exactly how our brain chemistry attracts and attaches us to our love interests. It describes everything from the Continue reading The Science Behind Love Is Revealed
Blurring the lines through the prism of Narcissism
A narcissist will not see their behavior through the reality of cause and effect. Instead, they will use a distorted prism to blur the lines. Continue reading Blurring the lines through the prism of Narcissism
Complex PTSD- psychological impact of sexual assault by fraud
Mental health professionals have recognized that PTSD may not only result from a one-time, immediate disturbance. According to the Journal of Taumatic Stress, Complex PTSD results from:
“the psychological impact of subordination to coercive control and has many common features, (with PTSD), whether it occurs within the public sphere of politics or within the private sphere of sexual and domestic relations.”
What is Coercive Control?
Coercive control is present in all forms of domestic abuse whether violent or non-violent, and can include manipulation through Continue reading Complex PTSD- psychological impact of sexual assault by fraud
Pistorius Murdered his Betrayal Bonded Lover!
South Africa’s highest court finally provided justice for betrayal bonded Reeva Steenkamp, the beautiful model who Paralymipc star, Oscar Pistorius, love-bombed and tormented. On December 3, in Bloemfontein, South Africa, Justice Eric Leach overturned the prior decision of Justice Masipa to disqualify the charge of murder in favor of a lesser charge, equivalent to manslaughter. Continue reading Pistorius Murdered his Betrayal Bonded Lover!
The Tsunami of Invalidation- Recovering Trust
Victims of sexual assault by fraud often think all is lost and they’ll never be able to trust again. Not only were they harmed by a scammer, but the emotional supports they counted on caused them further pain.
Tsunami’s are most often created by sudden movements on the ocean’s floor such as earthquakes or mudslides. They’re the backlash of displacement. This natural event mirrors the seismic wave Continue reading The Tsunami of Invalidation- Recovering Trust
New Sexual Assault by Fraud Case in India
On Sunday, November 15th, the Speaker of the Assembly in Arunachal Pradesh, India, Nabam Rebia, was charged with physical and mental assault, based on his “false promise to marry” by his live-in girlfriend of four years. A First Information Report, (FIR,) which enables the police to arrest without warrant, was drawn up based on her complaints. FIRs are Continue reading New Sexual Assault by Fraud Case in India
What’s appropriate sentencing for rape by deception? Not the Gayle Newland case!
Gayle Newland, convicted of rape by deception in Canberra, Australia, was sentenced to 8 years in prison yesterday. The Judge, Roger Dutton, grossly overstepped the bounds of rational judgement to impose harsh retaliation, not justice. Newland is a lesbian. Dutton’s sentence is more severe than those he leveled on pedophiles. Continue reading What’s appropriate sentencing for rape by deception? Not the Gayle Newland case!
All eyes on New Hampshire- the conviction of Owen Labrie
Owen Labrie, a popular senior at world renown St. Paul’s School in Concord, NH, used his Facebook account to contact a female freshman for a “Senior Salute,” a tradition in which upper class-men score sexual favors from younger students.
A 15 year old young lady he invited thought the practice entailed kissing, not sexual penetration. She was happy that Labrie had selected her for this ritual. There seems to have been no discussion of what Continue reading All eyes on New Hampshire- the conviction of Owen Labrie
Legislators of NY State Introduced to Catfishing!
Catfish (Catphish) Profiles, false personation in e-dating, Facebook, and other internet descriptions, to embroil victims in romance scams, is now part of the permanent record of NY State’s Assembly. On October 21st, I provided testimony to create awareness and, hopefully, plant seeds that will bring about change. Continue reading Legislators of NY State Introduced to Catfishing!
Overt vs. Covert Rape- What’s the difference?
I wish I had a nickel for every time someone told me “Rape by Fraud isn’t Real Rape!”
Back in 1982, Susan Estrich,
- Fox News Legal Commentator,
- University of Southern California Law Professor,
- First female to become President of Harvard Law Review,
- Campaign Manager for Dukakis/Bentzen’s Presidential bid,
launched her account of rape by fraud. Guess what the name of her book is…… Real Rape.
Susan Estrich is my hero! Without her brave attempt at setting Continue reading Overt vs. Covert Rape- What’s the difference?
Self Blame and Shame- the hallmarks of rape
All types of rape create self blame and shame for victims. This statement from the Rape Treatment Center at the Santa Monica UCLA Medical Center– sums up the feelings that rape victims express:
Continue reading Self Blame and Shame- the hallmarks of rape
Comparing rape by fraud with date rape- Rochelle’s CAD Tale
A commentor I’ll call Rochelle left this heartfelt post. It’s a clear indication of the harm in rape by fraud that comes directly from the mouth of a woman who’d previously been date raped, a form of the crime we readily recognize in today’s penal codes throughout the world.
I’m frequently told that to consider tricking a person into sex as a form of “sexual assault” is an insult toward victims of violent or date rape. Continue reading Comparing rape by fraud with date rape- Rochelle’s CAD Tale
Catfish, Sociopath or Scammer? Kaitlin’s CAD TALE
He’s just a scammer, not a sociopath! You know…. a catfish con artist. Other than that, he’s a nice guy? Right?
Yup- that’s what the police officer told one recent victim when she described her harrowing run-in with the heartless con artist who defrauded her of sex, love and assets. I’ll call her Kaitlin.
Kaitlin met her Romeo, Kenneth, at work. He was the technologist Continue reading Catfish, Sociopath or Scammer? Kaitlin’s CAD TALE
Just Released- The Hand That Feeds You
Today, the NY Times featured a new novel about something not so new, and not so novel…… sexual assault by fraud.
Purchase it today along with the true life tale of sexual assault by fraud:
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Ghosting, Discard, and No Contact
What’s the difference?
A recent Valeriya Safronova article in the NY Times focused on the act of sudden, unexpected withdrawal and non-communication in romantic relationships. It shines a light on the cruel act that many victims in toxic relationships refer to as being discarded.
Safronova attempts to define the behavior by citing Charlize Theron’s decision to “ghost,” refrain from communication with, Continue reading Ghosting, Discard, and No Contact
California- The Land of In-Between
California still uses the word “rape” in its penal code.
It has laws that outlaw some, but not all types of rape by fraud! It’s a start! The laws passed in 2013. The case that inspired the change was People v Morales.
According to the case records, Julio Morales snuck into bed with a sleeping victim while her bedroom was dark. Morales’s account indicates that he changed her Continue reading California- The Land of In-Between
A Great Read on Oxytocin- Love Addiction
Rachel Sanoff deserves a medal for her article on Bustle! Must reading for everyone who ever wondered why they were stuck Continue reading A Great Read on Oxytocin- Love Addiction
Oxytocin Wins Scientific Grants for UF!
The neuropeptide, oxytocin, has been linked to many beneficial characteristics and behaviors in both humans and other mammals. Considered the “Love Molecule” by Dr. Paul Zak in his groundbreaking book, The Moral Molecule, How Trust Works, it has become a hot topic, drawing funds for in-depth analysis by scientific researchers.
Melissa Brown reported the following for The Independent Florida Alligator:
The Voice of Supporters- Stop Sex By Fraud!
Nay-Sayers are not the only voices!
We’ve heard all the nay-saying silliness that folks who oppose “Sexual Assault by Fraud” laws come up with. And we’ve seen the ridiculous scenarios that the media creates in order to sensationalize, by stoking the fire of opposition….. Continue reading The Voice of Supporters- Stop Sex By Fraud!