Brock Turner’s victim hit on an exceptionally descriptive term to explain how rape made her feel. Even though she was unconscious during the entire episode, she expressed, in her stirring statement, that she felt “contaminated.” Continue reading Contamination – What an apt description for sexual assault!
Jim Brown, an award winning producer and the highly acclaimed host of The 180 – CBC’s national radio show to spark conversation on what’s going on in Canada – jumped right in with the important questions ….
“People often tell little white lies to impress a possible partner, At what point do those lies add up to fraud? “
The entire broadcast aired at 11 am (EST) on Sunday morning, 9/11. You can hear it all, and respond with your comments on the PodCast.
Read Neil McArthur’s insightful article on Sexual Assault by Fraud!
Be sure to enter the conversation!
Here’s the link: http://www.vice.com/en_ca/read/is-lying-to-get-laid-a-form-of-sexual-assault
Cited as “Draconian but necessary,” a Sexual Harm Prevention Order (SHPO) was recently issued against 44 year old UK electrician, Geoffrey Ball. Ball had been found guilty of sexual offenses toward women and is no longer allowed to have a relationship of any sort with a woman, without express permission by the police.
Such orders should be available to US authorities in order to prevent Continue reading UK’s Extreme Solution to Combat Sex Crimes
From now ’til June 15th, Truth in Romance Day, read each crucial step to help romance scam victims reclaim their self-esteem and dignity. Today, we’ll cover the letter “O”. Continue reading Dust-Off! Step 5- How to Heal From a Romance Scam!
From now ’til June 15th, Truth in Romance Day, I’ll identify each crucial step to help romance scam victims reclaim their self-esteem and dignity. Today, we’ll deal with the letter “U”.
The entire DUST-OFF Plan For Recovery from sexual assault by fraud is revealed in Carnal Abuse by Deceit, How a Predator’s Lies Became Rape.
Happy healing and happy Truth in Romance Day to all!
Undue pressure is counterproductive to healing!
Understand that healing Is NOT a return to your former self! Every experience we encounter enables us to grow.
Often people who have been damaged believe the end goal is to wash away all remembrance of pain and return to the person they once were, but there is no going back. The expectation of recovering your former self can serve to depress you because it is an unobtainable goal and will be a constant disappointment. Once you can take strength from having lived through your ordeal, you’re on your way toward recovery.
Time and distance will ease your pain. And if you can grieve the loss of your innocence, the loss of the person you were, you can put it behind you. You are wiser now. Employ that wisdom to keep yourself safe from predators in the future.
You will often hear the concept of “forgiveness” used as a means to overcome the effects of wrongdoing. Forgiveness does not mean having to forget what happened or excuse it. Rather, it means accepting that it happened to you. A morally disordered person will not care in the least whether you forgive them or not, so don’t forgive them for their sake, forgive them for yours.
We often keep anger close to our hearts when we have suffered gross injustice. Doing so erodes our own sense of well-being by focusing us on pain and creating hyper-vigilance. We need to refocus ourselves on the good things in our lives in order to make room for joy to find its way back in. It is difficult to put anger aside. It takes considerable practice, but it gets easier in time as life takes on new meanings and the episode you survived fades into your past.
The entire Dust-Off! plan for recovery is included in Carnal Abuse by Deceit. Click the title to purchase your copy.
From now ’til June 15th, Truth in Romance Day, I’ll identify each crucial step to help romance scam victims reclaim their self-esteem and dignity. Today, we’ll start with the letter “D”.
The entire Dust-Off Plan For Recovery from sexual assault by fraud is revealed in Carnal Abuse by Deceit, How a Predator’s Lies Became Rape.
Happy healing and happy Truth in Romance Day to all!
Here’s step one…….
Don’t Shame or Blame Yourself!
Predators excel at making victims feel responsible for their harmful behavior. Don’t! No one has the right to expect you to be perfect, not even you. No one has the right to harm you either emotionally or physically for your imperfections or for any other reason.
Be alert to gas-lighting which is a manipulative and common ploy of predators. They will deliberately upset you, then fault you for being upset. Their intent is to make you doubt yourself or to put your “upset” reaction under a microscope for others to observe, out of context. A predator can depress you to the extent that you begin to doubt your sanity, and cause others to do so as well.
Recognize that you were in the wrong place at the wrong time when you happened into their space. They’ve made you wiser to the concept that fundamentally cruel people actually exist. You will not be as naïve and easy to snare the next time you enter a predator’s lair.
Forgive yourself. You didn’t know they were lying when you fell in love with them. No one lies by accident. They deliberately set out to fool you. Do not let their immorality strip you of your self-worth.
Write a letter to yourself reminding you of all your lovable and virtuous characteristics.
The entire Dust-Off! plan for recovery is included in Carnal Abuse by Deceit. Click the title to purchase your copy.
Truth in Romance Day is coming on June 15th!
For those who were victimized by romance scams, the steps to recovery are coming, beginning June 9th. They are straight out of my book, Carnal Abuse by Deceit. Starting on June 9th, I’ll reveal each step, one by one, and by Truth in Romance Day on June 15th, you’ll know them all and be on your way to restoring your self-esteem!
Continue reading DUST-OFF! Tips for healing from romance scams
It was Halloween, 1987.
My son was six years old and attending a private school on the Upper Westside in NYC. His teacher had arranged a little party for the class at lunchtime, and I’d offered to bring cupcakes. They were a mixture of chocolate and vanilla with bright orange butter frosting. I recall every detail because of what happened to me on the way there. Continue reading Is rape by fraud an insult to “real” rape victims?
According to Wickipedia, mental health professionals refer to the emotional impacts of harmful and helpful behaviors as valence. And they credit valence with our judgement and choices. Fear is an example of an emotion with negative valence, while joy exemplifies positive valence. Continue reading Micro Expression- Is it the key to scamming us?
States employ a wide choice of terms to describe sexually exploiting victims. Some call it rape, some call it sexual assault, sexual battery, sexual misconduct, and the list goes on. In California, the statutes that address sex crimes using fraud refer to the offense as “sexual battery,” as 49 year old David Wolfsmith of Morgan Hill found out Continue reading Extra! Extra! New Sexual Battery by Fraud Case in CA
India is one of few countries where rape law properly applies the term consent. But K. V. Dhanajay, a Supreme Court Advocate there, has gone to a great deal of trouble to display his abject ignorance. He has condemned the Judges of India as “ignorant” because they understand the meaning that he either ignores or fails to comprehend. Continue reading Ignorant Upheaval Against Rape by Fraud in India
Forty-five year old Haissam Fostok turned himself over to the police in Passaic County New Jersey today for crimes committed by catfishing a New Jersey victim. He was charged with 2nd Degree Theft by Deception, 3rd Degree Theft by Deception (for credit card Continue reading Alleged Catfish Arrested Today in New Jersey- Haissam Fostok
Jagdishpur, India- According to The Times of India, the wife of a man identified as Moimuddin, turned-in her husband to the authorities for defrauding another woman for sex. She reported the elicit affair when she learned that her husband had deceived a widow, for two years, into thinking he was eligible and Continue reading Bravo India! Miscarriage without consent!
A hearing related to a rape case will go before the courts of Massachusetts on April 27th.
Dr. Ho Yin “Aaron” Shiu, a U Mass spine doctor who took a Hippocratic oath to do no harm is on trial for sexually assaulting his 42 year old, female patient. Shiu, a graduate of Rutgers University who practiced at U Mass Hospital and AdCare, was charged in Worcester MA with indecent assault and battery and rape. His attorney’s defense strategy? There was no force; “fraud is not force.” And the victim did not resist. Continue reading Beware NJ! Mass. rape case Dr. has moved to your state!
Love is an addiction!
This valuable post on InsideScience (rt clk) comprehensively explains the activity in your brain when you fall in love. While we consider love an emotion, there is very specific Continue reading LOVE – There’s no magic. It’s science!
Assent vs Consent– Don’t lie to get laid!
Permission is a form of assent. But consent has a different meaning in the eyes of the law. And that distinction makes tricking someone, or depriving them of consent in any other way, a crime.
By law, consent, not assent, must be present in sexual relations, as stated clearly in the ItsOnUs Pledge, supported Continue reading Assent vs. Consent- They’re not one and the same!
Yup… you heard me right!
In order to pull yourself out from a sociopath’s control, and stop feeling the pangs of love that keep drawing you back…… put the emotional empathy that sets you apart from them to work on your behalf! Emotional empathy enables you to relate to the emotions of others. Take a good look at your relationship through their eyes, and you’ll never go back!
Continue reading Need to escape a sociopath’s grip? See yourself through their eyes!
Catfish profile victims often experience revenge porn. Intimate pictures are tools predators use to inhibit their prey from stepping forward when the jig is up! Twenty six states in the US, Continue reading Revenge Porn Takes Center Stage! You can help!
An online resource produced a decisive info-graphic explaining exactly how our brain chemistry attracts and attaches us to our love interests. It describes everything from the Continue reading The Science Behind Love Is Revealed