A Dozen Tips for Court Prep Against a Narcissist

In courtrooms- narcissists blur the lines between cause and effect!

In any court of law, proof, not truth, is the deciding factor. But when dealing with narcissists and other character disordered offenders, both truth and proof fly out the window.

As we live our lives, we rarely journal each and every daily event. Without concrete evidence of who threw the first punch. – “Was the person the aggressor or simply defending against one?” –  it’s hard to prove. And in matters of emotional abuse, where no bruises or scars can help tell the story, the complexity of the problem is intensified.

Abusers obscure reality to hide their lack of character. Their crazy-making distortions can ignite anger and incite the victim. They will intentionally distort in front of a judge to diminish the victim’s credibility. Often, they achieve their goal, not by proof, but by antagonizing the victim by forcing them to endure an invalid account of their suffering. The victim feels like they’re being suffocated by their own defilement.

How to approach court appearances with a Narcissist 

  1. First and foremost, don’t look at them. You will not get a sense of earnest concern or apology. They will be preening for the judge, just like the pretense they used on you. They are practiced at it. Don’t expect they’ll change because you know they’re a terrible person. In fact, your awareness simply causes them to work harder at appearing normal.
  2. Speak to your attorney, no one else. It is not necessary to direct your answers to the offender’s attorney… even while they’re asking the questions. What a judge and jury evaluates is what comes out of your mouth and goes into the court’s record. Who you’re facing when you speak is not an issue.
  3. When you are stressed or feel badgered, your attorney needs to know. They can intervene. Prior to your testimony, come up with a sign for your attorney, like a palm’s up gesture, when you feel you’re becoming anxious or agitated.
  4. When you hear testimony that offends you, or that you know to be untrue, don’t mutter or shout out. Keep a note pad in front of you and write down the offending statements or questions for your attorney.
  5. Maintain as calm a demeanor as absolutely possible at all times in front of the judge and jury.
  6. Write down the answers to the questions you think you’ll be asked and practice, practice, practice…. before you go into the courtroom.
  7. Respect the court…. no matter what. Particularly if you have an
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    offensive judge, offending them won’t win you points!

  8. While you may have a great sense of humor, sarcasm can severely backfire in a courtroom. Refrain!
  9. Dress and speak respectfully. No hats, plunging necklines, or excessive jewelry. The judge’s name, for the duration of your case, is “Your Honor,” “Mam” or “Sir.”
  10. Don’t chew gum.
  11. Don’t bring your children, for any reason. A courtroom experience is stressful. Exposing your child is not in their best interest, and will not sit well with the judge.
  12. Turn your phone off!

If you have any stories about your case in court that can help others, or questions you’d like answered, please post them here in the comment section.


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7 thoughts on “A Dozen Tips for Court Prep Against a Narcissist”

  1. Hi Ms. Short I sent you a e-mail…Court is over….I got protection too, from the bully Narc. Lawyer. One thing I found out…LOOK up your Judge, as if there is a conflict you and your lawyer can file to get another Judge.

  2. Great advise Joyce. I need to follow this advise well when I face the man that sexually assaulted me in court.

  3. Re: Joyce, quick addition to the email I just sent you. Message-looking up names on LinkedIn-(to see if I could find Charles Brouillette-romance scammer & Giovanno Charon-a person THE romance scammer asked me to send him money to Giovanno by way of tranferring money to his Chase bank account in TX. There is a connection of names on both LinkedIn names. Coinsidence? Please when get a chance. Thank you. Ann Roberts

  4. Greetings Joyce. Excellent advice and information. This is Ann R**** from Liberty, MO. The recent person victimized by a Romance Scammer. I have a little more information regarding my case. Joyce, a Sheriff I know for Clay County, MO, a fellow veteran member of Amer. Legion Post #61, told me to contact financial institutions. I was asked – really told – to do so by the romance scammer Charles D. Brou******tte. He also told me to report to the News Station- like the other lady from KC, MO. I’D RATHER WAIT UNTIL I TALK TO YOU. THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME AND HELP. YES, I DO NEED HELP. ANN

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