Everyone is entitled to truth in romance, but some folks simply don’t comply. They think their wants are more relevant than yours, and don’t grasp how much you care about protecting your personal autonomy.
Truth in Romance Day is designed to give you the support you need in order to satisfy your concerns and protect yourself. A day in which people are expected to share information will help you begin the conversation. If you’re newly in a relationship, and have yet to see the other person’s identification, here’s how you could introduce this concept…
They’re really heels! I’d never do that to you!
That’s great! I was hoping you’d feel that way! Is there anything that concerns you about what I’ve told you about myself, because I’m happy to show you proof?
Nope, I think you’ve been totally honest with me.
Excellent, because June 15th is the day when romantic partners all around the world are going to be sharing their personal identification with each other and I know we’ll have no problem doing that!
Up to this point, it’s been pretty easy sailing, right? But here are the many responses you can expect…..
That’s a stupid idea and I’m amazed you’d expect me to do that!
Ooops…. wrong answer! You’ve probably seen your first sign of deceit. You’ve offered a mutual sharing, not just an expectation of compliance. Resistance is probably a cover-up for distortion of some kind that their ID would uncover.
I really don’t think we’re at a point where I want to share that information with you.
If you’ve had sex with this person, they’re basically saying that it’s “just sex” and there’s no intimacy or relationship behind it. Better that you get the lay of the land today than build false hopes! Do you really want to continue sharing your body with someone under this circumstance?
“It’s that stupid, feminist agenda. You’re not a “feminazi” are you?”
Belittling is a technique that morally bereft folks use to manipulate others. They engage in put-downs and name calling to throw you off track.
Really, if the person’s been honest with you and you have the basis of a loving foundation, there is no reason why they wouldn’t want to share their ID with you, or show you proof of any other issues that concern you.
Here’s the answer that reflects a pure heart…
I’m so happy we’ve found each other and I’m honored you’ve chosen me to share with. I care about you and will do whatever it takes to build your trust.
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