Truth in Romance Day
We have Valentine’s Day for celebrating love. We have days to acknowledge Moms, Dads and Grandparents, We even have days to recognize ground hogs. And did you know September 24th is National Punctuation Day…. No kidding!!
I’ve long struggled with a way to unite folks behind the concept of being truthful in romantic relationships. People who’ve fallen prey to hoaxes know all too well the horrid sense of defilement that accompanies what should be one of the most gratifying undertakings of our lives, finding an emotional and sexual partner. But all too many romance seekers become victims who are embroiled in deceptions that undermine their self determination, exploit them, and crush their self-esteem. For many, the damage can last a lifetime.
Internet daters are often people who are seeking love, and they should not have their hopes met with defilement. Separating someone with a pure heart from a scammer can be aided by checking their ID before the relationship proceeds too far. You should know, for a fact, who you’re dealing with, long before you’re sharing intimacy. For people who’ve sneaked by, June 15th is the day of reckoning.
Why is sharing ID so important?
Checking ID would have saved a recent NJ victim from the sexual hoax perpetrated on her by William Allen Jordan. He’d stated his name as Liam Allen. It wasn’t until they were engaged that she took a look at the driver’s license that tipped her off to his record for pedophile and bigamist convictions. His escapade in NJ put him in jail for a three year term.
Tom Guido, presently facing bigamy charges, (also in New Jersey, what’s in their water?) used the name Tom Gatto with the many women he seduced. He allegedly falsified information about being in the Marines, the FBI and a licensed Forensic Psychoplogist. He even seems to have conducted private practice as a Therapist without either a degree or a license.
But it’s so embarrassing and invasive to check ID, isn’t it?
People have confided that their fear of looking “untrusting” holds them back. But really, would someone who cares about you, and has told you the truth, not want you to feel safe with them?
Some media folks ridicule the concept by depicting that you’d be locked in the midst of passion and say, “Wait! I have to see your ID. And you’ll need to sign on the dotted line that it’s a valid document as well!” They’re feeding sensationalized propaganda to their nay saying listeners. Deceitful minds believe that belittling will fool you into thinking that truth isn’t relevant.
Scammers are loathe to give out their address, especially if they’re married. If they’re 45, not 33 like they told you, wouldn’t you like to know? But you really shouldn’t wait ’til you’re clothes are coming off in order to ask!
June 15th is your golden opportunity!
It’s the day that all new romance and sexual partners should share ID and fess-up about any distortions they’ve told each other. If every year, new romantic partners knew they had to come clean on June 15th, the rate of sex scams would drop. They’d understand that they’d be found out, so what would be the point.
While you’re looking at their driver’s license, don’t hesitate to ask for any other proofs you need, like the health test they told you they’d taken. And if they falsify their documents, indeed, they’re conducting sexual assault by fraud.
What if they don’t want to share their ID with me?
If you’ve been intimate together, and your belief is that you’ve embarked on an on-going relationship, they should be eager to prove their love. If not, they probably have something they’re hiding, and you’re better off knowing now, or walking away.
When do lies become Sexual Assault by Fraud?
Lying to you is not a crime, ’til the offender takes something that you would otherwise not give them by their doing so. If they’re inducing sex through lies, it’s time they admit the truth and let you decide for yourself what you chose to do with your body and your emotions.
Online dating provides the perfect opportunity for scammers and offers no protection. Whatever the person falsely states in their profile should be straightened out BEFORE you engage in sex with them. It’s one thing to puff yourself up to be attractive. It’s quite another to actually carry out an act of sexual penetration based on a hoax you created.
And the reward is?
Just like most special days call for unique gifts like candy on Valentines Day and flowers on Mother’s Day, exchanging ID and coming clean on Truth in Romance Day is the perfect excuse for a luxurious bubble bath for two, replete with a sprinkle of rose petals and a lovely, chilled bottle of champagne. It’s the perfect reward for respecting and building trust between you and your new romantic partner.
When I was young and said something I shouldn’t, the outcome was a bitter, distasteful bar of soap. What a great consequence for those who fail their ID check on Truth in Romance Day!
And don’t forget to report back here on any interesting events that took place!
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